CONVERSATIONS
Close call
June 26, 2022 - Temecula, CA
We were wrapping up a family trip when we had to call the paramedics from a gas station.
Getting good news
July 9, 2022 - Excited to go home after a 13 day stay in the hospital.
90 minutes later…
July 9, 2022 - Pasadena, CA
We were 30 minutes from home when we had to exit the freeway to find an emergency room. She was admitted to another hospital and stayed there for five more days.
Road to recovery
July 14, 2022 - Santa Monica, CA
Finally home
August 26, 2022 - San Fernando Valley, CA
Exactly two months after first getting admitted to a hospital, she finally returned home. We continued to joke how this was the longest “weekend getaway” ever.
Saying goodbye
November 18, 2022 - Van Nuys, CA
“It’s going to happen one way or another. At least we’re able to talk about it. I’m accepting it. But just think that no matter what happens, I’m resting. I’ll be relieved. I need to rest…it’s time. Don’t worry anak [child], I love you all very much.”
Celebration of life
December 10, 2022
Acceptance
These photos were made with permission from my mom on the condition they would only be shared after she was gone (we just didn’t think it would be so soon).
After my dad passed away in 2019, I knew I wanted to photograph more of my mom while she was still around, so I’m thankful she allowed me to document what was ultimately the last five months of her life. While there were many sad moments, the hospital stays and her home recovery led to some of the most honest conversations we’ve ever had, including my final conversation with her two days before she passed (which I managed to record) where she talked about acceptance and finally wanting to rest.
I learned more about her through this process and am thankful for the opportunity to leave nothing left unsaid (which I know not everyone has the chance to do).
*Published on Mother’s Day 2023 (also my dad’s death anniversary)